How to Get Your Ex Back

Relationships are very delicate things that need to be built up and constantly cared for to allow the magic to keep happening. Because of this fragile nature, break ups definitely happen just as it has probably happened to you. The most natural first reaction after a break up is to do everything in your power to get back the lost relationship.

If you have a few secret tools in your back pocket you will not only get your ex girlfriend back, but she will be begging you to take her back. Here you have the 5 top tips, as submitted by our readers from our online community at ExBackTestimonials.com, that have helped them most to get their ex back.

1) Be strong. After a recent discussion with the team a very true saying came up: No one needs the needy. This tied perfectly to what we always teach, that attraction is the number one attraction killer in the world. People are repelled by people who are constantly begging, pleading and doing any of this low-value things to try and save the relationship. You should rather let your ex girlfriend know that you’re fine with the break up. When the realize that you have moved on, she will wake up and realize that she has not.

2) The No-Contact Rule. This is one of the most difficult rules for people to follow, but absolutely critical when you really want your ex back. I am once again reminded of another amazingly true saying and that is: Give them the gift of missing you. Take a break, don’t call, text, email or anything for a while. This give your ex girlfriend time to calm down after the break up, straighten out their head and really start feeling that emptiness left by your absence.

3) Be flexible. Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. Rather be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who doesn’t take things too seriously is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again.

4) Get up and go out! If there ever was a time to build your social network, this is it. Get out of the house. Call your friends and go have some fun. You do not have even pay attention to the opposite sex, nevermind going on dates, but you have to get out and really bond with your friends again. This will be therapeutic to you while at the same time making your ex girlfriend realize what an amazing person she has lost from her life.

5) Just be yourself. If you care to remember, there was a time when you and your ex girlfriend were head over heels in love. There’s a good reason for it and it is because she fell in love with the real you! Instead of being hard on yourself, blaming yourself for the break up, rather just find yourself again as this was the central point of all attraction between the two of you.

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You can still bring your ex back! That’s right. Even if you’ve broken up in a horrible way and she says she never wants to see you again, all is NOT lost! Relationships are fragile and breakups are common. It takes two people for a relationship to work, after all, and it’s pretty easy for one person to slack off and let the other do all of the work of holding the pairing together. When the one shouldering the entire burden of making things work gets tired of working alone, a break up is usually the result.

When a breakup happens, the one who has been dumped will usually have one of two reactions:

1) She’ll be relieved to be done with an uncomfortable relationship and eager to move on, or

2) She’ll realize what a horrible mistake she made and desperately want to get back with you. Naturally, it will be a lot easier to bring your ex back if she’s having the second reaction. However, even if she seems glad to be rid of you, things don’t necessarily have to be over. There are things you can do all by yourself to make her look at you in a new light and want to be with you again. Here are 3 of them.

1.  Don’t Be Needy

Neediness is unattractive. If your ex feels glad to be done with you after the breakup, she’ll feel like she really dodged a bullet if you start to act needy and clingy. The more desperate you become for her affections, the more it’s going to drive her away. Hold onto your self-respect and act like a man (even if you don’t feel like one). She’ll respect you a lot more for it, and may start to reconsider her stance on being apart from you.

2.  Minimize Contact With Her

Of course, your first reaction to a breakup will probably be to call her constantly, send her texts every hour, and show up unannounced at her door three times a day. This is counterproductive. Not only will you come across as desperate, but being in contact with her immediately following a breakup will only open up more opportunities for the two of you to fight. Fighting in the immediate aftermath of a breakup is a sure way to erase any chance you have of getting her back. You broke up because something wasn’t working in your relationship and it needed a break. Do both of you a favor and take that break, for at least a month. Then, you can re-visit things with a clear head and calmer emotions.

3. Learn to Compromise

Don’t give your ex any mandates. Too many guys do this thinking that they can scare their ex into returning to them. This tactic almost always has the opposite effect. Don’t tell her things like, “If you walk out that door, don’t ever come back!”, or “You have to decide right now if you want to be with me.” The breakup happened because something wasn’t working in your relationship. To find out what it was, you’re going to have to listen to what your ex has to say and give her time to figure out what she’s feeling. If this takes a while, that’s fine. It’s better that she come back to you knowing exactly why she wants to than bullying her into staying when she’s not sure about things.

You can bring your ex back with a little patience and understanding. It may not be easy, especially when you’re longing for her to be in your arms, but the wait is well worth it.

Many relationships are stronger the second time around. By using the above techniques, you’ll be providing both of you with the best possible chance of a lasting future together. If you really love her, you’ll give her the time she needs to realize how much she loves you back.

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