Being in a relationship can be a very delicate thing, and the slightest thing can cause a breakup. The bad thing is once the break up happens, a lot of people lose hope, not realizing just how possible it is for them to get their ex back. If you are not doing your part in the relationship, then you can expect your partner to get tired of you and eventually move on. The challenge is, getting them to see that you have changed back to the person they fell in love with. The problem is, you have to do this without looking like you are desperate or needy, and without smothering them and making them dislike you even more. So how do you do that?
Well, you can start by being strong. Meaning, do not walk around looking like you lost your best friend, even if you have. You don’t want to look like a big immature baby. Calling and leaving crying message on the phone will most likely just get you laughed at by your ex and their friends.
They may think about it later on and feel bad about it, but they will still come to the conclusion that they made the right decision, because you are not making them remember why they got with you in the first place. Instead of them seeing the side of you that you would like them to see, they are seeing the sad, lonely and helpless side of you, which makes you look even more unattractive.
Try not to call them all of them time, and make sure you keep the contact with them to a minimum. If you keep calling them, it will come to a point where they won’t even pick up the phone for you anymore, trust me I have been there before. SO don’t get drunk and leave 2 hours worth of messages ranging from crying to cursing to laughing and crying at the same time. I promise you this will not show you any results whatsoever.
Do not try to intimidate them or make them jealous. This is NOT going to give you any leverage, it is just going to make them hate you. So don’t call them and tell them to come and get their stuff or else it is going out on the curb, especially if you KNOW you want them back. If you go the jealousy route and kiss somebody in front of them, or get with one of their friends, then you can lose their number and forget you ever knew them.
There is really no repairing something like that, and if you do manage to get them back after being with their friend, then you can bet they will cheat on you without even feeling guilty eventually, as soon as someone else comes along and they remember what you did to them.
The best thing you could do if you’re trying to get your ex back is to be as nice a possible and be yourself. Don’t act like it is the end of the world, but at the same time let them know that you are hurt and you miss them. You can do this with one simple phone message, you don’t need 20 messages to let them know that you are sorry and you miss them. If you feel like crying when you leave the message, don’t hold back, just don’t bawl your eyes out to the point they can’t understand what you are saying. If you cry on the message and you sincerely mean it, a lot of the time you will get a call back, unless they can’t understand what you are saying, then you’ll probably get laughed at.
The most important thing to remember is to be yourself. You have to show them why they got with you to begin with, and don’t stop being the best you can be until they have no choice but to get back with you. No matter how terrible the situation is, just remember, there is always a chance that you can mend the broken bonds.
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