Relationships are very delicate things that need to be built up and constantly cared for to allow the magic to keep happening. Because of this fragile nature, break ups definitely happen just as it has probably happened to you. The most natural first reaction after a break up is to do everything in your power to get back the lost relationship.

If you have a few secret tools in your back pocket you will not only get your ex girlfriend back, but she will be begging you to take her back. Here you have the 5 top tips, as submitted by our readers from our online community at ExBackTestimonials.com, that have helped them most to get their ex back.

1) Be strong. After a recent discussion with the team a very true saying came up: No one needs the needy. This tied perfectly to what we always teach, that attraction is the number one attraction killer in the world. People are repelled by people who are constantly begging, pleading and doing any of this low-value things to try and save the relationship. You should rather let your ex girlfriend know that you’re fine with the break up. When the realize that you have moved on, she will wake up and realize that she has not.

2) The No-Contact Rule. This is one of the most difficult rules for people to follow, but absolutely critical when you really want your ex back. I am once again reminded of another amazingly true saying and that is: Give them the gift of missing you. Take a break, don’t call, text, email or anything for a while. This give your ex girlfriend time to calm down after the break up, straighten out their head and really start feeling that emptiness left by your absence.

3) Be flexible. Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. Rather be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who doesn’t take things too seriously is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again.

4) Get up and go out! If there ever was a time to build your social network, this is it. Get out of the house. Call your friends and go have some fun. You do not have even pay attention to the opposite sex, nevermind going on dates, but you have to get out and really bond with your friends again. This will be therapeutic to you while at the same time making your ex girlfriend realize what an amazing person she has lost from her life.

5) Just be yourself. If you care to remember, there was a time when you and your ex girlfriend were head over heels in love. There’s a good reason for it and it is because she fell in love with the real you! Instead of being hard on yourself, blaming yourself for the break up, rather just find yourself again as this was the central point of all attraction between the two of you.