Relationships are very delicate things that need to be built up and constantly cared for to allow the magic to keep happening. Because of this fragile nature, break ups definitely happen just as it has probably happened to you. The most natural first reaction after a break up is to do everything in your power to get back the lost relationship.

If you have a few secret tools in your back pocket you will not only get your ex girlfriend back, but she will be begging you to take her back. Here you have the 5 top tips, as submitted by our readers from our online community at ExBackTestimonials.com, that have helped them most to get their ex back.

1) Be strong. After a recent discussion with the team a very true saying came up: No one needs the needy. This tied perfectly to what we always teach, that attraction is the number one attraction killer in the world. People are repelled by people who are constantly begging, pleading and doing any of this low-value things to try and save the relationship. You should rather let your ex girlfriend know that you’re fine with the break up. When the realize that you have moved on, she will wake up and realize that she has not.

2) The No-Contact Rule. This is one of the most difficult rules for people to follow, but absolutely critical when you really want your ex back. I am once again reminded of another amazingly true saying and that is: Give them the gift of missing you. Take a break, don’t call, text, email or anything for a while. This give your ex girlfriend time to calm down after the break up, straighten out their head and really start feeling that emptiness left by your absence.

3) Be flexible. Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. Rather be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who doesn’t take things too seriously is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again.

4) Get up and go out! If there ever was a time to build your social network, this is it. Get out of the house. Call your friends and go have some fun. You do not have even pay attention to the opposite sex, nevermind going on dates, but you have to get out and really bond with your friends again. This will be therapeutic to you while at the same time making your ex girlfriend realize what an amazing person she has lost from her life.

5) Just be yourself. If you care to remember, there was a time when you and your ex girlfriend were head over heels in love. There’s a good reason for it and it is because she fell in love with the real you! Instead of being hard on yourself, blaming yourself for the break up, rather just find yourself again as this was the central point of all attraction between the two of you.

Guys, if you are looking for ways to get your ex girlfriend back but have no clue where to begin, you have found what you were looking for. Here we give you three timeless ways to get your ex girlfriend back as proven through helping hundreds of guys in the same position as you.

1) Take The Familiar Road And Wait It Out.

This is one of the ways to get your ex girlfriend back that you will hear a lot. You basically should take a vow of “no contact” and give her anywhere between fourteen days and one month to calm down, gain some perspective and be open to you again. Why the no-contact rule exists is simply to not interfere with her own natural way of dealing with the break up. You should let her mind go its natural way. It’s almost ridiculous how much she can forget over a one month period. After a little break like this I have seen guys waltzing back into their ex girlfriends’ lives as if nothing was wrong.

2) Let Her Friends Love You.

This is a dirty little trick that, when played right, is probably one of the most effective ways to get your ex girlfriend back. If you are close friends with her friends, you are in luck. What you should do is be the coolest friend they could have ever wished for. Make sure that they never catch you being depressed or sad about the break up. Just be real, friendly and happy around them and they will only have good things to say about you. You can be sure that these things will reach your ex girlfriend. The great thing is that if it is some of her girl friends, they can literally brainwash her into realizing how crazy she was for breaking up with you! Evil? Yes. Does it work? Like a charm.

3) Jealousy Makes Your Ex Girlfriend Come Back.

It’s a fact that getting your ex girlfriend back is won or lost in the mind. And what’s the strongest factor in determining what is going on in somebody’s mind? That’s right, emotions. Jealousy is one of the most intense emotions you can use to make your ex girlfriend do all sorts of crazy things to get your attention. I do not recommend going out and getting freaky with every girl you lay your eyes on, but rather go on a date with one of her friends who you know likes you. Note that this does not have to be a romantic date at all, just have fun with it. It is only for your ex girlfriend to hear about. Take my word for it, she will be losing sleep that night. She will just have you on her mind, wondering what on earth you are up to. This is very sneaky but at the same time one of the most powerful ways to get your ex girlfriend back.

Listen dude, I know (believe me) that being dumped is tough. It eats you up. Especially if your girlfriend was the woman of your dreams. And even more so if she used to be yours for more than a year. A breakup an extremely painful experience to endure, one of the worst things a guy can go through.

If you are currently in this situation, you are at a crossroads right now. You will have to choose what you are going to do straight away. This is going to be your Battle Plan, you must do one of these two things. Only you can make the choice, and listen, there is no right or wrong here. But choose with care.

Choice number one: You can try to go through the pain, feel the true force of it. It will hurt like hell for some time. But after that you can let time heal your heartache bit by small bit. It will definitely heal, at some point. And the experience will make you stronger.

Choice number two: You can put up a fight once more, and really give everything you’ve got to win your ex girlfriend back. Make your true love yours again.

If you choose the latter, then you will need to come prepared. This game is not for sissies, you will need to man-up. Crying and whining, or stalking her is not gonna do it for you. You need a solid plan, and you need to pull yourself together.

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