Last update: February 12, 2016
by James Dougherty
So you want to learn how to get your ex back?
You are about to discover 3 simple text messages that will get your ex back…
Before reading, please confirm you’re in one of these two groups…
- Group A: You dumped your boyfriend/girlfriend and now you want him/her back.
- Group B: You were dumped by your boyfriend/girlfriend, and again, you want him or her back.
You’re in one of those groups?
I built this website for people exactly like you – or, rather, I built it to stop people like you from doing anything stupid while trying to get your ex back fast.
Here’s what I mean:
In the heat of the moment after a breakup, you will convince yourself that texting something is a good idea – but chances are, whatever you’re thinking of texting won’t be enough to get him or her back, no matter how sincere or apologetic it is.
You’re probably a great person, but right now, you have to realize that you two are broken up for one reason or another – you need to make sure everything is perfect if you want to get his or her favor back.
Make sense? I’m here to help.
My name is James Dougherty and I’m a professional relationship coach based out of , .
I’ve been helping guys and girls successfully get their exes back for… well… over two decades now!
Below is exactly what I tell my clients to do after being dumped by or accidentally dumping a girlfriend/boyfriend – if you’re in that situation, I can guarantee my advice will help you.
Continue reading to learn what to text and why my recommended texts are the “right move”.
Text this TODAY if you want to get your ex back.
Most people who want to learn how to get their exes back have convinced themselves that it’s better to wait…
I can tell you with absolute certainty that waiting is the last thing you want to do.
- Waiting indicates you don’t care. No matter how you see the act of waiting in your head, your significant other sees it as a sign of disrespect. He or she will be thinking – “Why hasn’t s/he texted me yet? Does s/he even care?”
- Waiting makes your good qualities fade. Right after a relationship, you remember both the good and the bad of your ex. As time goes on, you stop remembering the good and start remembering only the bad. You don’t want that to happen to you.
- You never know what’s going to happen. If your ex meets someone else tomorrow, you now have to break up a relationship to get him or her back – this is a much harder feat to accomplish than getting your ex back when he or she is single.
Basically, I’m saying that relationships are fragile. But you’re taking the right steps by reading this page! “Winging it” rarely (if ever) works.
Let’s move onto the good part, AKA the three texts you should send right now to get your ex back.
Why the first 3 texts are so crucial to getting your ex back
The first few texts will morph how your boyfriend or girlfriend perceives you.
As of right now, you two have been broken up for a certain amount of time – it might be days, weeks, months, or even years.
Over that span of time, your ex has created a certain image of you in his or her head.
When your name pops up on his or her phone, he or she isn’t going to remember the “full” you – just the image.
What does this mean? Basically, he or she is going to “read into” what you’re saying far past what you intended to say.
For example, if your ex sees you in a negative light, sending a simple “hey” or “what’s up” will probably be met with anger and a non-response. He or she will be thinking “ugh, I’m only getting this text to hook up” and won’t respond.
On the other side… if your ex dumped you because you were too needy or clingy (be honest!), a couple of paragraphs might only reinforce this image and make your efforts fruitless.
The first three texts are so important because that’s your only shot.
If you succeed, you can get him or her back.
If you fail, you fail – and you’ll have to accept that he or she has moved on.
The 3 Texts: Strategy for how to get back with your ex
If you need to get your ex back, the three texts you should send are broken down like this.
Text #1 – Your objective is to get a response.
This is what I call the “preliminary text” that breaks the silence.
You want your ex to receive this text, look at the phone, and respond.
Depending on the nature of your relationship, that response might be anything from friendly, to neutral, all the way to angry and spiteful… regardless, you want him or her to enter the conversation in some way!
Text #2 – Your objective is to get a real response.
After the first text, you want to move the conversation from nothing to something.
You do this by eliciting a real response from your ex.
What I mean is, you want to make him or her think about something, then give you a real answer – not just a word or two.
This can be anything from an aspect of your relationship to a random event that happened recently – again, it depends on how you two left it.
Text #3 – Your objective is to transition successfully.
After you get a preliminary response and a real response, you want to move into meeting with your ex as soon as possible.
Sometimes, it will days hours, or even days to get a date – but the transition starts with the third text.
If you don’t transition successfully, you’ll never remind your ex of who you actually are – you’ll be stuck as whatever negative “image” he or she has created over the time you two have been separated, and you’ll never be able to get your ex back.
Confused? Watch this video. Michael Fiore, one of the most respected and known relationships in the world, goes over the first three texts and shows examples of each one depending on the current nature of your relationship with your ex.
His book, Text Your Ex Back 2.0, also covers the three texts, exactly how to craft them, and how to handle communication past the first three texts, too.
Trust me, I wish I could say that those three texts above will get your ex back for certain… but chances are, unless you’re 12 years old, you’ll have much more work past that. Michael goes over everything in his book, which you can download instantly by clicking here.
How to make sure your texts are guaranteed to work
If you don’t really care about getting your ex back – maybe you just want to hook up with him or her, or it would just be nice to “be in a relationship” again – then follow the three guidelines above and “wing it”.
If you care about getting your ex back – as in, you can’t live without him or her in your life – then I’d highly recommend watching this video from Michael Fiore and downloading his book, Text Your Ex Back 2.0.
(Michael was the man who originally inspired me to get into relationship coaching, and after seeing him speak at seminars all around the world, I can say for certain that this guy really knows his stuff.)
The book goes over the first three texts (as I just said), and it also covers the next eight weeks of texting your ex back.
The goal is to not just have a nice conversation, but get your ex back as your girlfriend or boyfriend permanently. The book goes over what types of texts to send, and actually gives you bulletproof templates to send, too.
Usually, I wouldn’t recommend a simple book for something as complicated as mending a relationship. But in the case of Michael Fiore, I can recommend his book with absolute certainty.
Of all of the relationship coaches I’ve met, everyone has read his book, and aside from that, millions of people worldwide have used it with success.
When you download the book, you also get access to the member’s area where you can ask others about the texts you’re sending – with dozens of successful relationship coaches helping in that area, this advice in itself is usually enough to get your ex back, even without the book.
That’s about it. Allow me to summarize how to get your ex back…
- Act NOW – if you don’t, you’ll be out of ways to get your ex back.
- The first three texts are crucial – don’t send them without reading my guidelines above.
- A relationship coach is always the best option – but the good ones (like myself) will charge you $250+ for a single hour…
- Downloading Michael Fiore’s book, Text Your Ex Back 2.0, is the next best option – and it will tell you everything that a relationship coach like myself could, anyways!
Don’t wing it and send a random text – you’ll regret it.
Los Angeles, CA